• Blog,  Paddys Ramblings

    Mental Health/Illness & Us Men

    As if 2021 couldn’t get any worse I’m going to try talk about mental health/illness among us men. Now I’ll be honest, I’ve never suffered with a mental illness. I’m fortunate, but I think this is because I’m quite open and honest with how I feel. But men, we don’t talk about this. A quick Google tells you 1 in 8 men have a common mental illness such as depression. That means of all the men in my family, on average, 1 of us will suffer with a mental illness. Thats quite a scary thought. In 2019, there were 5691 suicides. I dread to think what the figure could be…

  • Blog,  Paddys Ramblings

    Fuck You 2020! – Paddy’s Year

    As I saw in the new year last night I opened the front door, let 2020 out and in walked the glorious bastard that is going to be 2021! This time last year was very different “Happy New Year Paddy I cant wait to meet you in a few days and spend the whole day with you xxx” said Agnes. Who thought that the year would go so so different to what I was thinking. It was just after my Grans funeral. We “cheered” 2020 in with family. Tears flowed as we mourned her passing. Agnes had been great for me but it was hard. A couple of dates later…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Twitter Isn’t Tinder – But Does It Matter?

    Twitter isn’t Tinder. It never has been and it doesn’t try to be. Yet since I’ve set up the @itsmymatepaddy Twitter page I’ve been surprised. Pleasantly that is. We all know how Tinder works, go on and swipe away. We all know thats not how Twitter works. But since the page started I’ve come across “Twitter Shaggers” and Twitter romances. I’m an old romantic when I want to be. So romance anywhere is great to see. I’ve loved seeing some relationships flourish on Twitter for some of my favourite people on there. It’s been a delight in this shit storm of a year. But it wasn’t what I expected to…

  • Blog,  Paddys Ramblings

    Singles Day – Its All About Self Loving

    Singles Day, something I never knew existed until today (11th November) and I’ve been single on this day many times before. I think I read somewhere this day is thanks to China. The less said there the better. So Singles Day got me thinking, single life, is it all that bad? For me I would have to say no. In the middle of a pandemic knowing you cant date or meet someone then it can have its moments of the sobering thought of “I’m going to be alone forever!” But thats not the case, unless we want to be alone and chose to be alone. But even for us singles…

  • Blog,  Guest Blog

    Sexting Paddy

    Hello, I am Scarlett from the blog Sexting Scarlett, ok, I’m not really called Scarlett but Paddy has christened me this and truth be told, I like it – it is now my adopted persona for when I want to sext and I fully intend to buy myself a t-shirt with a bold S (think Emma Stone in Easy A – a weird movie reference, but it’s how I roll). Anyway, back to sexting with Paddy. If you have read his previous blog you will know we got hot and heavy over messages after matching on Tinder. What you will not know because Paddy still denies it to this day,…

  • Blog,  Guest Blog

    The Ghosting FWB

    Before I start let me say this, I’m not a writer, which given what I do for a living some would find odd, and I’m terrible at talking about myself and my feelings. But I do spend much of my life talking about others. So for what is probably the first real occasion, I’m going to try and combine something I should be good at, with something I’m really not – talking about others, and how they make me feel. Hopefully with a splash of humour to boot!  This is a story I was never sure I’d tell, much less publicise. Some of you may have seen the odd brief…

  • Blog,  Sex

    Sexting Scarlett

    Sexting isn’t something I do a lot of and OK she’s not actually called Scarlett. But as always, to protect people involved its never the real name. Let me tell you the tale all about sexting Scarlett after a match on Tinder. The Beginning It didn’t start off as sexting, the conversation was like any other. A chat about likes and a chat about things we had in common. Always with a hint of cheekiness from both of us. I made it clear in the conversation that I wasn’t looking for anything serious. The innuendos were flying all over the place. I think at the start, both of us were…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Lockdown Swiping – My Dating App Time In Lockdown

    Lockdown swiping was one way for me to get through the early stages of lockdown. Over on Twitter I made no secret that I’d done relatively well in terms of matches. These matches led to good chats. I think the count when I discussed it was 90. From the end of March to the middle of April I got 90 decent chats with people. I’d never known such a thing. I was buzzing with it, I was hoping lockdown would soon be over so I could get out on some dates. I spoke in detail to a good number of them. In terms of meeting up, potential relationships and other…

  • Blog,  Sex

    The Homemade Sex Tape

    Sex tapes, we’ve all made one haven’t we? Like, from start to end. Not just a short clip of each other…..don’t leave me hanging with this one. For a while LDL (Long Distance Love for those who haven’t read the other blog) and I had made various clips of each other, had some fun on webcam and even over the phone. So when we talked about making a full sex tape it was no surprise at all that it happened. I think I was the only person to ever have a copy of this sex tape, maybe other than her, but even she might not have had it. You’ll understand…

  • Blog,  The Ex Files

    Long Distance Love

    Love can be hard, put a long distance in with that and it can be even harder. This story is all about the experience I had in one. We will call her LDL to keep her anonymous. But settle in this might be a long one. I came across LDL on a forum, back in the day of MSN messenger. When I saw her photo I knew I needed to speak to her somehow. I don’t believe in love at first sight, but LDL, wow, something about her made me want to be with her. Fast forward maybe 6/8 months. A lot had changed in my life at this point.…