• Blog,  Realtionships

    Relationships & FOMO

    I’ve been in relationships since I was about 16/17. I had 5 years where I didn’t see anyone when I was about 25. So whats this post about I hear you ask, you can’t have fear of missing out (FOMO) when you’ve been in relationships can you. Well thats not where the FOMO comes from. I’ll explain. I saw a post on Twitter, yes Twitter shock horror, that asked “Can you name all the people you’ve had sex with?” The answer was a massive YES! Don’t get me wrong this isn’t a bad thing, the FOMO comes from the amount of people its been and not relationships. 4. If you’re…

  • Blog,  Dating

    The Dating Apps 3some

    The dating apps, a nightmare of a place to be. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy them, most of the time. Right now though I’m really not enjoying them. They seem like hard work, tedious and boring. So i’ve stopped going on them. So just to give a bit of context to this blog, I decided to have a week dedicated to one of the dating apps a week, swiping on profiles each day. Using Tinder, Bumble & Hinge I decided to swipe every single day. 80 swipes a day. In a similar time scale at the start of lockdown I had around 90 conversations on the go. Some moved…

  • Blog,  Guest Blog

    When Dating Gets Dangerous!

    I love a dating story, they can provide hours of entertainment for friends and family (and random strangers), some are hilarious, some just ridiculous, but there are some that are just damn well terrifying.  I am going to tell you about mine.  There was a time a couple of years ago where I was still trying to recover from the loss of a significant relationship, one that ended and turned out to all be lies, one that almost destroyed me to my very core. But I was trying to be on the up, I was trying to move forward so I was doing what many people do in this situation……

  • Blog,  Sex

    Porn – Single & In A Relationship

    I feel like I’m a glutton for punishment. The start of the week it was sex, now it’s porn. Porn however, I feel, is a much more sensitive subject than sex. I don’t think it’s as easy to bring up in a dating situation. Again though, having never got past the first date it’s not something I can comment on. It could be something that falls in to the discussion of sex to be honest. I guess it depends how confident you feel discussing it with the person you are seeing. I love a good poll, so at itsmymatepaddy on Twitter, I did what I love to do, create a…

  • Blog,  Sex

    No Sex Please We’re British

    Sex, if it wasn’t for the act of sex, none of us would be here right now. I wouldn’t by typing this gibberish and you wouldn’t be politely sat reading it. I was on holiday once, in a family friendly shop, looking for playing cards. As I walk to checkout of this nice, well presented shop in Greece I see cards. Bingo! The closer I get I start thinking “I don’t want Thomas The Tank Engine cards, god damit where are the real….oh hello!” Next to the very child friendly Thomas cards were adult cards. Its fair to say the Queen of Hearts on the box seemed to enjoy Thomas…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Agnes Slides Into The DM’s

    Firstly, apologises for the delay in the podcast. Agnes was always someone I’d write about once the pod came out but I figured I’d do it beforehand. The Beginning So here we are, Agnes. I’d taken myself off the dating apps. I wasn’t looking. Never had intentions to look. I got the call to say that my grandma had passed away. I’d never felt pain like it. Still, as I write this and when I spoke about it, it’s hard to accept that shes gone. So that was it, I needed to sort my head out. I’d messaged the people I’d been talking to at the time, explained a situation…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Social Distance Date Night

    If you follow me on Twitter (@itsmymatepaddy) you will have seen I recently went on a social distance date. The date came around after matching with the woman on Hinge. We chatted for a bit on there, seemed to have a fair bit in common so decided to swap numbers. The chat then turned to Whats App. We would speak for the best part of a week, back and forward day and night. The more we talked the more we found we had in common with each other. It seemed to go great. Although there wasn’t really any flirting going on in the texts, it was more like a normal…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Please Set Your Preferences…

    You sign up to your online dating site of choice. You’ve upload that selfie you took months ago, when we were allowed out and you were living your best life. The bio has been filled in with something witty and eye catching, then the fun starts. But, before you can start the fun of getting matches and writing that amazing bio that Buzzfeed or some other wacky website told you that you totally should write, you have to select your preferences. I’m a man/woman — looking for a man/woman between the ages of…..I’m straight/bi/gay, you get the gist. Now no one sees what you pick, no one knows what ages…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Ghosted…..The Ghoster & The Ghostee

    Firstly let me say thanks to @single20somthin on Twitter for giving me the idea to write about this topic. I’m sure as well, this will be something we discuss on the podcast at some point, I mean how can we not. Ghosting, it must have happened to us all in the online dating world right? You think it’s all going great, you’ve spoke to that woman/man for days, if not weeks, hours on the phone and hundreds of texts. Then, nothing, worse than nothing silence. Total silence. Left on read or not even read at all. Shit! The first time it happens the thought turns to “is it me? is…

  • Blog,  Sex

    Fucking And Football…What More Do You Need In A Weekend?

    Let me take you back in time. A time when we weren’t locked in the house with nothing open and nowhere to go. June 1st 2019, a weekend away, some freedom and time for some fun and of course the Champions League Final. Just a disclaimer, I’m not a Spurs or Liverpool fan. So you’re not a Spurs or Liverpool fan? So why’s this day important and why are you telling us this story I hear you ask. Well, June 1st 2019, was the last time I had sex. Thanks to lockdown and the restrictions in place I’m now going to hit a year without sex. Yes I know we…