• Blog,  Sex

    Sexting Scarlett

    Sexting isn’t something I do a lot of and OK she’s not actually called Scarlett. But as always, to protect people involved its never the real name. Let me tell you the tale all about sexting Scarlett after a match on Tinder. The Beginning It didn’t start off as sexting, the conversation was like any other. A chat about likes and a chat about things we had in common. Always with a hint of cheekiness from both of us. I made it clear in the conversation that I wasn’t looking for anything serious. The innuendos were flying all over the place. I think at the start, both of us were…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Lockdown Swiping – My Dating App Time In Lockdown

    Lockdown swiping was one way for me to get through the early stages of lockdown. Over on Twitter I made no secret that I’d done relatively well in terms of matches. These matches led to good chats. I think the count when I discussed it was 90. From the end of March to the middle of April I got 90 decent chats with people. I’d never known such a thing. I was buzzing with it, I was hoping lockdown would soon be over so I could get out on some dates. I spoke in detail to a good number of them. In terms of meeting up, potential relationships and other…

  • Blog,  Sex

    The Homemade Sex Tape

    Sex tapes, we’ve all made one haven’t we? Like, from start to end. Not just a short clip of each other…..don’t leave me hanging with this one. For a while LDL (Long Distance Love for those who haven’t read the other blog) and I had made various clips of each other, had some fun on webcam and even over the phone. So when we talked about making a full sex tape it was no surprise at all that it happened. I think I was the only person to ever have a copy of this sex tape, maybe other than her, but even she might not have had it. You’ll understand…

  • Blog,  The Ex Files

    Long Distance Love

    Love can be hard, put a long distance in with that and it can be even harder. This story is all about the experience I had in one. We will call her LDL to keep her anonymous. But settle in this might be a long one. I came across LDL on a forum, back in the day of MSN messenger. When I saw her photo I knew I needed to speak to her somehow. I don’t believe in love at first sight, but LDL, wow, something about her made me want to be with her. Fast forward maybe 6/8 months. A lot had changed in my life at this point.…

  • Blog,  Realtionships

    Relationships & FOMO

    I’ve been in relationships since I was about 16/17. I had 5 years where I didn’t see anyone when I was about 25. So whats this post about I hear you ask, you can’t have fear of missing out (FOMO) when you’ve been in relationships can you. Well thats not where the FOMO comes from. I’ll explain. I saw a post on Twitter, yes Twitter shock horror, that asked “Can you name all the people you’ve had sex with?” The answer was a massive YES! Don’t get me wrong this isn’t a bad thing, the FOMO comes from the amount of people its been and not relationships. 4. If you’re…

  • Blog,  Dating

    The Dating Apps 3some

    The dating apps, a nightmare of a place to be. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy them, most of the time. Right now though I’m really not enjoying them. They seem like hard work, tedious and boring. So i’ve stopped going on them. So just to give a bit of context to this blog, I decided to have a week dedicated to one of the dating apps a week, swiping on profiles each day. Using Tinder, Bumble & Hinge I decided to swipe every single day. 80 swipes a day. In a similar time scale at the start of lockdown I had around 90 conversations on the go. Some moved…

  • Blog,  Guest Blog

    When Dating Gets Dangerous!

    I love a dating story, they can provide hours of entertainment for friends and family (and random strangers), some are hilarious, some just ridiculous, but there are some that are just damn well terrifying.  I am going to tell you about mine.  There was a time a couple of years ago where I was still trying to recover from the loss of a significant relationship, one that ended and turned out to all be lies, one that almost destroyed me to my very core. But I was trying to be on the up, I was trying to move forward so I was doing what many people do in this situation……

  • Guest Blog

    The Match & The Chat

    Paddy’s handing over the writing of the blog today to @lifehostage32, its a woman’s perspective on the apps. These are her words. Enjoy. Now, I don’t know about you, But I find online dating really hard work. Firstly, in order to be in the ‘zone’ for it, I must ignore all my inner voice telling me it never ends well (there will be more of this in future posts, I’m not just impatient I promise!) Then following on from that, there is all the admin.  I love a swipe ( so do my friends after a few wines – sometimes they pick pretty well to be fair! – we all…

  • Blog,  Sex

    Porn – Single & In A Relationship

    I feel like I’m a glutton for punishment. The start of the week it was sex, now it’s porn. Porn however, I feel, is a much more sensitive subject than sex. I don’t think it’s as easy to bring up in a dating situation. Again though, having never got past the first date it’s not something I can comment on. It could be something that falls in to the discussion of sex to be honest. I guess it depends how confident you feel discussing it with the person you are seeing. I love a good poll, so at itsmymatepaddy on Twitter, I did what I love to do, create a…

  • Blog,  Sex

    No Sex Please We’re British

    Sex, if it wasn’t for the act of sex, none of us would be here right now. I wouldn’t by typing this gibberish and you wouldn’t be politely sat reading it. I was on holiday once, in a family friendly shop, looking for playing cards. As I walk to checkout of this nice, well presented shop in Greece I see cards. Bingo! The closer I get I start thinking “I don’t want Thomas The Tank Engine cards, god damit where are the real….oh hello!” Next to the very child friendly Thomas cards were adult cards. Its fair to say the Queen of Hearts on the box seemed to enjoy Thomas…