• Blog,  Dating

    Agnes Slides Into The DM’s

    Firstly, apologises for the delay in the podcast. Agnes was always someone I’d write about once the pod came out but I figured I’d do it beforehand. The Beginning So here we are, Agnes. I’d taken myself off the dating apps. I wasn’t looking. Never had intentions to look. I got the call to say that my grandma had passed away. I’d never felt pain like it. Still, as I write this and when I spoke about it, it’s hard to accept that shes gone. So that was it, I needed to sort my head out. I’d messaged the people I’d been talking to at the time, explained a situation…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Social Distance Date Night

    If you follow me on Twitter (@itsmymatepaddy) you will have seen I recently went on a social distance date. The date came around after matching with the woman on Hinge. We chatted for a bit on there, seemed to have a fair bit in common so decided to swap numbers. The chat then turned to Whats App. We would speak for the best part of a week, back and forward day and night. The more we talked the more we found we had in common with each other. It seemed to go great. Although there wasn’t really any flirting going on in the texts, it was more like a normal…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Please Set Your Preferences…

    You sign up to your online dating site of choice. You’ve upload that selfie you took months ago, when we were allowed out and you were living your best life. The bio has been filled in with something witty and eye catching, then the fun starts. But, before you can start the fun of getting matches and writing that amazing bio that Buzzfeed or some other wacky website told you that you totally should write, you have to select your preferences. I’m a man/woman — looking for a man/woman between the ages of…..I’m straight/bi/gay, you get the gist. Now no one sees what you pick, no one knows what ages…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Ghosted…..The Ghoster & The Ghostee

    Firstly let me say thanks to @single20somthin on Twitter for giving me the idea to write about this topic. I’m sure as well, this will be something we discuss on the podcast at some point, I mean how can we not. Ghosting, it must have happened to us all in the online dating world right? You think it’s all going great, you’ve spoke to that woman/man for days, if not weeks, hours on the phone and hundreds of texts. Then, nothing, worse than nothing silence. Total silence. Left on read or not even read at all. Shit! The first time it happens the thought turns to “is it me? is…

  • Blog,  Sex

    Fucking And Football…What More Do You Need In A Weekend?

    Let me take you back in time. A time when we weren’t locked in the house with nothing open and nowhere to go. June 1st 2019, a weekend away, some freedom and time for some fun and of course the Champions League Final. Just a disclaimer, I’m not a Spurs or Liverpool fan. So you’re not a Spurs or Liverpool fan? So why’s this day important and why are you telling us this story I hear you ask. Well, June 1st 2019, was the last time I had sex. Thanks to lockdown and the restrictions in place I’m now going to hit a year without sex. Yes I know we…

  • Blog,  Dating

    The Cost Of Online Dating

    One afternoon my curiosity got the better of me, what would the actual cost be to sign up and become a premium member on the apps I have downloaded? So I started to browse the apps and work it out. I currently have Tinder, Bumble, Plenty Of Fish and Hinge. I started by looking at Tinder, I’m already paying £7.99 a month for this to have unlimited swipes. These are the plans you can have with Tinder Tinder Plus – £7.99 a month Tinder Gold – £27.99 a month – like the £7.99 package you get unlimited swipes but you also get to view who liked you and the passport…

  • Blog,  Dating

    Travelling The World In Lockdown…On Tinder

    Lockdown, the night Boris Johnson told us “Stay Home, Save Lives, Protect The NHS” and the night that dating in 2020 changed in the UK for at least 3 weeks. We’ve now hit week 7. Things haven’t changed, dating in 2020 has been, if you’re following the rules, a virtual world. With no chance of being able to meet to date, let alone travel, Tinder gave everyone a virtual plane ticket to fly around the world for a month. I’ll be honest over on @itsmymatepaddy I wasn’t overly happy with this. I didn’t see the point and thought free unlimited swipes would be better. However since I was paying £7.99…